Thankful Tuesday

wineandcupcakes got it right. McBenny called people cunts and told people to fuck themselves many times. And told people that if they were "too delicate" to scroll past BMBs on the way to the loss/if boards, they had no business on the internet.

Parenting can be a funny place but I agree that it's full of bullies. It grinds my gears especially when they foster an echo chamber in the politics threads and ream out anyone with differing opinions.


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THIS.

Yet McBenny called us out for being an echo chamber when we were calling her out for what she said. Also, and many don't know this, all of the baby-related ads, recalls and site-wide stickies involving children and pregnancy were NOT put on the loss and IF boards. So we didn't have to see them.

Happy first day back, shellbell.

I'm at my first shift back as well. I'm working just one, 12-hour shift a week. I'm working nights now which I hate but my parents are coming down tomorrow so I can sleep. Hopefully I can make it all night having been up all day. And hopefully I'll be scheduled for days in July.

Hope the first days are okay ladies! They do get easier.

oldbaylover1024 and wineandcupcakes thanks for the info! I knew a portion of that.

So, my MIL is in an improv class and they had an open class this weekend where everyone comes to watch. Anyways, one of the class members is a black male. Everyone was given different scenarios to act and different emotions to display and he, at one point in the performance (one of his *many* characters), was asked to begin angry and end...I forget on which emotion he had to end on, but anyways...fast forward to the end of the performance and they opened the floor up to a Q&A. Two white women who were 55+ kept harping on the fact that they felt it was racist to have him feed into the stereotype of an angry black man...

....because he was asked to act angry once (so were others)...

They wouldn't let it go and I just felt so bad for this poor man because a) they were taking it to this awful place for no reason and it didn't belong and b) because they were making it a point to point out his status as a man of color when he likely just wants to be a dude in an improv class. And I felt that by them doing that, they were almost being racist in a way - or at least going above and beyond to make it a point to show that despite being white old ladies, they weren't racist. And I felt that was actually inherently racist of them.

This is probably exactly what you are referring to in your post 😉

No he was 100% serious.


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loves2shop4shoes,

I've been trying to formulate my thoughts and words all day to address this.

I live in a town that is population 92% white/ caucasian. Just across the not very large river is a similar town, so close that we are often referred to as the Twin Cities. Population is exactly opposite at 92% African-American. The speed limits there are 10 miles per hour faster than in my town, even accounting for neighborhood makeup- i.e houses vs. apartments vs. businesses and variety therein. The roads leading from their town to ours are notorious speed traps. Those pulled over for violating the speed limits are disproportionately people of color. Within the town itself, statistics show far more accidents and deaths relating from those accidents than where I live. Given that, given things I have experienced having lived in both towns, I can absolutely understand why a person of color might feel that speed limits disenfranchise them.

I feel like now, more than ever perhaps, it is so important to listen to these stories and experiences from the African-American community, and other minority communities. We have a ton to learn from each other. I often find that I have a gut reaction upon reading or hearing such accounts that might make me say, "that's absurd!". But I don't get to tell a person of color how to feel or think about those things. They're not my experiences- they're theirs. Our life experiences, from growing up to being educated to being an adult and making our way in the world are so vastly different still.

I don't know what your friend wrote. But I am willing to listen to his story and others, and keep the conversation going. That, at the very least, is so very important.

Now, I'm going to bow out. Life is kicking my ass this week and I'm emotionally raw.