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Post by gimmesugar on Sept 19, 2017 1:56:08 GMT
Randoms here! How is everyone doing?
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Post by gimmesugar on Sept 19, 2017 2:53:57 GMT
I have a bit of a dear diary vent, so sorry for the length. TL/DR: Anxiety about DS's first day of daycare made me meltdown at work, and they almost fed him milk that wasn't mine. Major case of Mom guilt over here.
MH actually had today off, but since we paid for the whole week, we decided to do a test run and have DS go for the first half of the day. We have a login to watch the room on camera, and when I was at work talking to DH, I saw the teacher walking around with DS and a bottle. I could tell the bottle wasn't ours! Because of the angle, I couldn't tell if she was feeding him or not. DH called, and a lady from the front went back there. The teacher had not started feeding him yet, and she got the right bottle. When MH asked what would have happened if we weren't watching, they explained that another teacher has to double check the bottle and sign off that it's the right one before they start feeding...so they would have caught it, I guess. The 2 bottles were next to each other, and DS and the other baby have similar names.
I broke down at my desk...just like...omg, he's confused, won't sleep, and was almost fed the wrong milk. I spiraled into a bunch of what ifs. I just felt like we made a huge mistake. Poor baby only slept 20 minutes all morning. He passed out in a bouncy chair while the teacher was getting his next bottle ready right before MH got there. H got him home, fed him, and was later able to get him to take a 2 hour nap. Thank goodness.
I know it will take awhile for everyone to get adjusted, so I was well aware that I was overreacting. In the meantime, I feel like I need to login to work super early so that I can leave early enough to get him home for a rescue nap if needed. I was telling my mom about all this, she said, "Ah yes. Mom guilt - the gift that keeps on giving."
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Post by dmorgendorfer on Sept 19, 2017 16:15:24 GMT
gimmesugar I hope DS's second day of daycare goes better for you. If it helps at all, our DD1 has been in daycare since she was 3 months old (2.5 now) and she loves school and has actually learned a lot from being there and around the other kids. That said, I would be very angry if our daycare fed my LO someone else's breastmilk. Hopefully you don't have any more issues going forward but if you really aren't comfortable is it possible to look at other daycares? You definitely need to feel good about where your DS is spending his days and trust the people who are caring for him. Also, you should feel comfortable raising any concerns you have. Our daycare is onsite at DH's work and the first few days when DD1 had just started everytime he went in she was in a bouncy seat. We asked them how much time she was spending in it and said we were concerned that she was spending the whole day in a bouncy seat and they assured us she was not, but they were responsive and suddenly she was out of the seat more doing tummy time, etc when he went to pick her up.
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Post by gimmesugar on Sept 19, 2017 17:06:57 GMT
dmorgendorfer Thanks! Day 2 seems to be going better. We looked at 3 daycares back in March and spent multiple days in the Infant room to talk to the teachers and see how they did things. They all seem very nice and have, so far, followed through on anything we bring up. My mom suggested I give it 2 weeks and see how I feel at that time. I would also be concerned if DS was spending a ton of time in a baby "holding device." That can be bad for their development. Now that he's rolling, he actually doesn't mind tummy time all that much.
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Post by chknma on Sept 19, 2017 18:54:50 GMT
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Post by piratecat on Sept 19, 2017 19:08:41 GMT
gimmesugar I'm sorry that his first day at daycare was stressful but I'm glad today is going better. I so wonder how J does at daycare and have thought a webcam would be fun, but at the same time I wonder if I could resist watching it all day and if I would get any work done.
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Post by lastkiss on Sept 20, 2017 14:58:49 GMT
I'm glad our daycare never had cameras either. I would totally watch it all day.
@ginmesugar I'm sorry it was stressful but it's good they checks in place to make sure things don't happen.
The boys have been so weird this week. We're trying to gently sleep train Logan by not picking him up every time he wakes at night and trying to get him to fall asleep in his crib rather than being rocked to sleep. He s made great strides and had great stretches the past two nights but then is cranky during the day. Like you got more sleep you should be happy. Connor was the same. He slept 10 hours but then was a mess yesterday.
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Post by dmorgendorfer on Sept 20, 2017 15:02:17 GMT
Today has been a complete shit show so far. My commute in was a disaster and ended up taking over 2 hours, then I went to pump and realized I was missing part of both backflow protectors, so that doesn't work. I ran to babies r us but they only had spare parts for medela pumps. So I spent $90 on stuff that looked like it might work, and it did not. I ended up literally taping pump in style tubing to my flanges. At least it worked. I may just hide in the pumping room until its time to go home.
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Post by gimmesugar on Sept 20, 2017 15:21:46 GMT
Today has been a complete shit show so far. My commute in was a disaster and ended up taking over 2 hours, then I went to pump and realized I was missing part of both backflow protectors, so that doesn't work. I ran to babies r us but they only had spare parts for medela pumps. So I spent $90 on stuff that looked like it might work, and it did not. I ended up literally taping pump in style tubing to my flanges. At least it worked. I may just hide in the pumping room until its time to go home. Ugh! So sorry! I've forgotten my pumping bra before, and I remember being like...welp, this day is shot. I hope the day goes by quickly and you have an easier commute home. |
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Post by gimmesugar on Sept 20, 2017 15:24:54 GMT
piratecat lastkiss Yeah, the cameras are a double-edged sword for sure. I've gotten better and don't check as often now. My mom LOVES it (they allow you to setup multiple users). It's kind of nice to see that he's fine so that I'm not imagining a worst case scenario of him crying all day.
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Post by piratecat on Sept 20, 2017 15:35:58 GMT
dmorgendorfer oh man, what a pain! I'm lucky to work 5 minutes from home but I'm always paranoid that I'll forget something. I hope the rest of the day goes better for you!
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Post by piratecat on Sept 20, 2017 15:40:27 GMT
So it looks like we'll be flying to Houston at the end of October. Any tips on flying/traveling with little ones? It'll be a 4 hour direct flight from where we are. I know that buying a seat to fly with the baby in the car seat is best but... what have you guys all done?
At first I figured we'd just rent a car seat once we get there but I'm reading all kinds of bad things about doing that. So I think we'll probably gate check the car seat and stroller but I'm also worried about the car seat getting damaged. Ahh why are kids so complicated?
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Post by sagen on Sept 20, 2017 22:24:04 GMT
We took our car seat and stroller and checked it at the gate. They have a few scratches from it, but nothng too bad. Flying at this age is super easy compared to when they are toddlers and want to move around. I just nursed, he slept, woke up and played with toys/books. Have a good trip! Hope daycare is getting to be an easier transition gimmesugar, good catch on the bottle! |
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Post by gimmesugar on Sept 20, 2017 22:30:05 GMT
piratecat No advice, but I wanted to say good luck! I want to avoid major travel at all costs, especially time zone changes. The short road trip we took over the summer was stressful enough. There's so much stuff to schlep!
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Post by cmb on Sept 20, 2017 23:30:08 GMT
Er, I have a friend who lost her infant seat when she gate checked it, so I would be leery of doing that..
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